How to Flirt With a Man
Of course, it doesn't hurt to wear a hot dress and look interested in what he's saying.
One of my favorite people is newly single and has been wondering how to meet guys. Sometimes when we come out of relationships we forget what it was like to be single. We get scared that all the good ones are taken. We forget how to flirt.
I thought it would be a good time for a lesson. Flirting with men one-oh-one. It is a two part process.
Step 1: Smile.
Step 2: Say “Hi.”
End of lesson.
Really, that’s all there is to it. There is no need to worry about what to say or how to stand or should you flip your hair. You don’t need to think of discussion topics before a night out or read the section of the paper you find boring. Smile and say Hi. That’s all you need to remember.
Yes, there are variations depending on what image you want to project.
If you want to play hard to get, smile from across the room and wait to say Hi until he comes over to you. To be confident, you can walk up to him and smile. Be the first one to say Hi.
The rest will take care of itself. It will happen naturally if you hit it off or it will become obvious that he is not someone you want to get to know. Then you can walk away and get back to your friends, drink, or basketball game.
And the next time a cute guy walks up to you, smile and say, “Hi” and remember to enjoy the conversation. Focus on whether or not you like him, not the other way around. He’s just lucky you smiled at him.
Have you ever worried about going back into the dating scene? Any horror stories or words of advice?
“Focus on whether or not you like him, not the other way around.” That’s brilliant. Every girl/woman needs to say that to herself. So often we get it the other way around, don’t we. Thanks for the post.
I’m so glad you agree! I think we put too much emphasis on whether or not guys like us, when we should only want to date someone who likes us as we are. The real us. Thanks for sharing.
LOL!
Had a conversation with my daughter last night discussing dating or her lack of it. She hasn’t dated for over two years since a break-up. She doesn’t (she says) care if men like her or not. And she’s not prepared to ‘settle.’ Her wants in no particular order are:
Her space.
He musn’t be boring.
He musn’t be clingy.
He must respect that she has her own friends and the time she spends with them.
He must respect that she loves her family (Ahem).
He needs to understand her career comes first.
He needs to have his own life.
He needs to have a superior SOH.
He needs to understand she needs her rest on a weekend.
Last but not least, he must not cuddle her in bed because she gets too hot.
There you go. Her friends reckon she was a man in another life. I think they could be right.
Omg, Christine, your daughter’s list sounds EXACTLY like mine! So funny!
What? No snuggling for you either? To each her own.
That is a great list. I agree with almost everything. I am a snuggler. It’s good she knows what she wants, because how else will she know when she finds it!
Christine, that list is hilarious. I am soo out of touch with this stuff. No cuddling? Serious? Okay.
Emma, I like the confidence that you display in your suggestions for flirting. And I think that they can be used with people who are already in a relationship. Why not? Sometimes we forget that it’s important to flirt with our significant other. A smile and sparkle in our eyes can say so much from across the room letting that person know that the attraction is still there.
So true! I hadn’t thought of that. Flirting doesn’t have to stop once you are with your dream man. So, give him a smile.
Emma, I have no insightful comments, but I enjoyed the read!
You’re funny, Fabio! Thanks for the comment. I’m just glad you didn’t say I got anything wrong. You being an expert on men and all.
I wish I had this advice back when I was single!
I didn’t date much before my husband, but the stories I do have are pretty much all horror stories. After one really nice first date, I found out that the guy had a girlfriend (suffice it to say I did NOT go out with him again). There was the blind date I agreed to where I was told the guy was “just a couple years older,” and it turned out he was 20 years older. Another guy I helped to realize he was still in love with his ex, and he went back to her and proposed. I think you get the picture
I think my best advice would be what you said–just be you. If you try to be someone you’re not, then what they like about you is a lie. They’ll figure it out eventually, and then you’ll both be miserable.
That is so true! I have had that experience of being with a guy who liked me for who I was pretending to be. That never works out well.
Smile and say Hi; great advice. Love it. This should be mandatory reading for all singles. Don’t try too hard, don’t try to impress, don’t worry about what he thinks, just smile, say Hi, and enjoy the conversation.
Love your advice to focus on whether or not you like him. If a guy doesn’t respond to your flirting then he is not the guy for you! I like to flirt with my husband, even after being together 17 years, it’s still fun:)
“Focus on whether or not you like him, not the other way around.” AMEN SISTA!
I think you summed it up nicely. Women tend to get wrapped up in “does he like me, am I good enough etc”. They get wrapped up in the “chase” when really it should be about “is he good enough for you, is he what you are looking for” and starting with hi and seeing on the conversation flows is the PERFECT place to start!
I’m so glad you agree! I think we worry way too much about what others think of us, especially when it comes to men. Then we can end up in a relationship with a man we don’t even like! That is not good for anyone.